In my previous blog entitled “What is Love?” I wrote about what love is, and how I began my journey to find the love of my dreams. This blog will share some techniques that helped me put things into proper perspective and how they can help you as well. I will continue to share this journey with you as we learn what it takes to achieve the happiness you were always meant to have.

As I started looking at all my faults, I realized that this might seem like a really depressing task. One exercise that really helped me put everything into perspective was to create a chart (see example below).

Positive Qualities & Traits I Have Now	Qualities and Traits I Would Like To Improve

   

To make a chart for yourself you first need to get a large piece of paper and set it up like the example above.

Do you notice that I did not use any negative wording in the titles of the categories? Realize, that from this point forward we are going to stay on the positive side instead of focusing on only the negative. This is an important step in helping you see, accept, and love yourself honestly. There is no reason to get bogged down in negatives; this will only hamper your progress as you move forward. As Zig Ziglar, author of “See You At The Top” writes, “You must accept yourself before you can really like anyone else or before you can accept the fact that you deserve success and happiness.”

This is a very powerful statement when applied to all aspects of your life, but most importantly right now, while learning to love yourself and attract the true honest love of your life. If you do not accept yourself with all the qualities you would like to change as a good person who deserves the best that life has to offer in a relationship, then anyone you come in contact with, will not accept you as that good person either.

You might ask how I know this to be true?

I was once the type of person who was always able to put on a good face, but deep inside I did not hold my self in high regard. This caused so much pain and misery in my life and the lives of those around me. 

After finally taking charge of my life and my own happiness, I completed this exercise, and I found out my good qualities far exceeded those I wanted to improve!

As a result of that I started looking at myself in a more positive light and noticed that others around me did the same. I was also able to be kinder to those around me and look for those common denominators that tied us all together. My outlook, on myself and my life as a whole, changed to a more positive one and every day I become just a little bit happier.

I encourage you, over the next few days or so, to take a good look at your self and love your self as the good person you are right now!

Be sure to stay tuned for our in depth journey to finding the love of our dreams!

 

Finally Found Love